How To Handle Your Legal Divorce

FILE YOUR OWN DIVORCE
Starve the Divorce Lawyers With Mediation and Divorce Arbitration
by Harlan Jacobsen Copyright © 2003

FILE YOUR OWN DIVORCE

Work it out between you two and file a do it yourself divorce.

This is becoming more and more popular as word has gotten out that getting involved with divorce lawyers is the road to divorce "hell".

Many of the larger "do it yourself" divorce paper mills locally or on the web have a "paralegal" on staff who can generate the correct "tailor made" paper work for unusual situations which you then file yourself.

Standard issue paper work for the average undisputed divorce settlement, obtained on and off the web often run as little as $50.

Tailor written documents for unusual situations can run a few hundred dollars for a paralegal..

These are all based on "agreeing on the settlement" in advance, which is the way the majority of divorces are being settled now.

The problem or hazard here as I see it is in nearly all relationships, one or the other often is a "take charge person" and as a matter of habit tells the other "how things are going to be."

This will often logically continue into a divorce settlement negotiations and the non-controlling spouse will and can be taken advantage of.
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This spouse knows this, and probably correctly will not trust the STBX (soon to be ex spouse) and see no other way to protect their interest and therefore demands an attorney. Which now puts both in the soup.

The solution is mediation, or at least to have a professional person of some type familiar with what is "fair" locally in divorce settlements, look over the proposed settlement agreement and see to it that it is indeed a fair shake for both..

Go here to read about hiring an attorney as a coach.

Another problem here is one or the other believes they have been "treated badly" by the spouse running off without the proper "splitting protocol" and want to "seek revenge" and punish the leavor by any means possible.

Or they are so mad and upset with the spouse that had the "nerve" to leave or screw up the marriage, they refuse to sit down with the spouse and work out an agreement.

What they do not realize until too late, once caught up in the adversary process is they are doing great emotional harm to themselves as well.